Why use online matchmaker services?

Few of us come in contact with many women, never mind the right type of women in our daily routine. To try to evaluate as many women through bars, personals, or 'chat' services would take a life time and cost a fortune. Personals Ads & Chat Lines may get you some attention if you know a few good lines but often ends up wasting time when both parties discover their differences.

Using computer matchmaking systems you can access the profiles of more women in a few hours that you can meet in a lifetime.You can select the few that you are interested in and contact them.

Even if you don't find your perfect mate on the computer, these systems help you to get to know yourself, your sex / relationships preferences better. Next time you come across a women in a bar, you will know better whether she is your type and what to ask / say on your first date.

Writing introduction letters.

Show don't tell. For example, it is much more effective to use humor in your ad rather than just saying 'I have a sense of humor'. Show that you are an educated and intelligent man through interesting word choice, clear ad structure, and colorful and creative descriptions.

Creativity counts. Show them what YOU would want to know. Make a list of all the most important things that you would like to know about a person before responding to an ad. Others might like to know the same about you. If you work, in what field? Have you ever been married before? Do you have children? Are you looking to make some new friends, or do you want find one special person to settle down with for a lifetime? Keep in mind that common goals are often more important in a relationship than individual interests.

Describe yourself first. Be careful to avoid creating an ad that is simply a long list of characteristics you seek in another, without saying much about yourself. It is better to let the person reading the ad decide if they might be a match.

Details. How many times have you read a personal ad that states: 'I enjoy movies, music, and going out.'? Instead, name a recent movie that you enjoyed.List some of your favorite music styles or artists.

Where she lives. Long distance relationships do not work.

Beware of photos. Be careful not to be swayed by the pretty faces that some systems publish to lure men in. The most attractive ads are overloaded with e-mail and the rest have their most important assets overlooked. Let compatibility take priority over picture quality. Then you can exchange photos with the people you select.

Repling to ad

It is up to you to initiate the contact. Women are less likely to contact you than vice versa. (Men are suppose to ask women out. I suppose on the internet too. Also to reply costs money. Women often have less of this than men.)

When sending e-mail to her alias 'Copy and Paste' YOUR Introduction Letter into the message. Although you have read her profile, she may not have read yours.

Add something interesting that she may relate to and mention what you liked about HER Introduction Letter. Be sincere and positive. Women respond to a 'nice guy' they can trust. Aiming for FRIENDSHIP first instead of ROMANCE will make her feel more comfortable.

Reply to as many as your search has found (not just the 1 with the most sexy photo.) Women login to these systems less often than men do and have a lower response rate. (Women have a lower response rate in traditional methods, no less differerent here.)

Keep record of whom you contacted. Debbie will not appreciate it if you reply with 'Hi,Linda...'

Phonies Words can lie. She may not be as beautiful as the 10year old photo that she uploaded or as young as claimed to be. Be cautious. There are Delilahs on the internet too.

Expectations Try and ensure you both have the same expectations from the date by chatting about it before meeting. If your plan is to just meet for coffee, it helps to be sure your date has the same idea.

Why would a woman bother to respond to your ad?

The ad intrigues her. She wants to find out more about this person whose words bring a bloom to her cheeks, make her blood fizz.
The ad speaks to her, personally. "Hey, this is me, he's looking for me!"
The ad illuminates an overcast winter day, makes her laugh, fall silent, then dissolve in tears.
The ad presents the type of fellow she would seriously consider for a long term relationship as a lover, a mate, a friend.

Find a kinky date here. Find a naughty date here.

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